Sometimes life doesn’t give you what you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve so much more.
Is it really true that when one door closes, another one opens?
From my life perspective, it is true, but only if you are willing to open the next door.
If you are content with where you are, things are static. If you are dynamic and determined, then you are going down the long hallway and trying every doorknob until you find the new one that opens. (Author’s disclaimer: this is not advisable in a hotel hallway. Please do not implement this as a defacto solution. Author assumes no responsibility for the Reader trying any doorknob, anywhere… this is a metaphor. Please operate within the letter of the law.)
That said, try every doorknob that offers you potential opportunity. Even if you do not necessarily see the ways that this will come to fruition.
Life is full of surprises. Some of those surprises are massive disappointments. They can come out of nowhere and ambush all of our hopes, dreams and plans without recourse to anyone but ourselves. When this happens, our world is severely shaken, our stable ground is lost and our vision for what we are going to achieve or pursue is devastated.
If I may offer one small piece of advice… once this happens and you have weathered the initial shock and disappointment, your next best move is to embrace this aphorism. If you can find the peace of mind to say to yourself… “perhaps this truly is for the best.” If you can weather the huge storm that has set upon you, and begin to envision that far more opportune experiences are around the corner, you will quickly discover that your frame of reference, your positive attitude and your determination will unquestionably manifest these opportunities quicker than you might imagine.
Living life with this philosophy requires daily reminders, lest we grow rusty in our approach. I write every day to remind myself of these thoughts, to further cement them into my core being, and to reinforce my own personal cadre of resources.
I have most certainly not taken the safe route in life. I have wagered everything I have ever done on a future that I believe will come to fruition. It may be the wisest or perhaps the most ignorant thing I have ever done. There are days where either of those perspectives ring true and on the days that I am feeling foolish for the choices that I have made, I retreat back to this aphorism and start trying doorknobs, looking for the one that is going to open.
This aphorism states that you “deserve” so much more. Who determines if you actually deserve it? Is that a personal perspective? I believe it stems from a personal perspective, but I also believe that that perspective is heavily weighted by karma. If you are acting in accordance with keeping your karma pure, and watching out for those around you as you would wish for them to watch out for you, then you do truly deserve so much more. It may not deliver everything that you think you deserve, but it is incumbent upon you to manifest that into existence. No one can do this for you. It has to stem from within.
So, in the immortal words of one of the great sages of our era, Mick Jagger, “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you’ll find… you get what you need.”