Never forget who helped you out while everyone else was making excuses.
Everyone wants to be your friend… until you hit downstroke.
From that point forward, everything changes.
If you are a person of magnitude and an indomitable spirit, your ability to be a friend to those who have hit a down moment, arms your coffers with karmic resources that could potentially be there for you, if things in your world go south.
Life delivers countless friends and resources at your door when everything is operating as expected, but as quickly as we have a turn of events personally, or professionally, the perspective we believe we are living within, cannot help but change.
In such a moment, we are readily confronted with the true values of those upon whom we have come to rely.
If we are trying to discern the distinction between those who could help if they had the opportunity versus those who won’t help even if they do have the opportunity, we find our own internal reflection, and introspection most valuable. Yet it might concurrently be distorted by our own stress factors.
Depending upon the particular help that is desired, we might discover that there are unquestionably those who would be there for us, if they had the resources.
For us to arbitrarily categorize them while ignoring this perspective, does an unfair service to those who most readily would be by our side, if just given the opportunity.
When we are learning how we might navigate our way through times of trouble, we often severely limited by the way we see the world through our own myopic set of needs and frustrations.
In that centralized perspective, we might quickly lose all context of how, and why others might be viewing or perceiving, our current situation, and we might transpose upon them our perspective as to how we believe they should be viewing our situation, regardless of whether or not our projection merits that perspective. An understanding of this core variable is the root of this entire process. Viewing the world through a lens of distortion, can readily eliminate the truth.
It is only when we have distance from such a situation that we are readily able to biforcate our own personal circumstances from our expectations as to how others might see and engage with us.
It is only then that we are able to perhaps more readily digest the circumstances that have presumably transpired, and enable ourselves to determine whether or not our current perceptions are valid or whether they have been colored by the emotions under which we were coping or processing with our situation.
In the end, when you are past that particular chapter of your life, it is wise to look back and recognize those who were willing to have your back when everyone else was making excuses.
I personally believe that regardless of how anyone else treats you, no matter the circumstances, if you are a person of magnitude, a mensch, you will always be there for them, no matter how you feel they were or were not able to reciprocate.
Happy Thursday!
Brian Weiner 