Do you go out of your own way just to make yourself happy?
We are often times doing many different things to make other people in our life happy, but how often do we work to make ourselves happy?
Given that happiness is a transient state of mind, how is it that we might better find ways to improve our own likelihood of experiencing it with regularity?
We are continuously, seeking to be in a positive frame of mind. In many circumstances, we mortgage that frame of mind in favor of staying alive by making a living, doing anything that we are required to do in order to survive.
In between these moments lies the rest of our life. Given our circumstances, what specifically are we investing our time and energy in, such that we can reap the rewards that are truly what life is all about?
I believe that part of the solution to the quandary is to continuously expose ourselves to other aspects of life, which are leveraged as stimuli to enable us to better gauge which things in life are truly the source of our pleasure. While the solution to this perpetual question is not only different for every person, it can be different for each one of us on a day by day or hour by hour basis.
Our knowledge of these resources enables us to build an internal library, which might be accessed over the course of a lifetime. Conversely, we may discover that some of the elements in this hypothetical library have become stale and are less likely to provide the stimulation that they once delivered. In order for us to grow, we must continuously expose ourselves to new pieces of a much bigger puzzle in order that we can fill out a life well-lived.
If we continuously expect others to be the source of our happiness, we will unquestionably be disappointed at various moments in time. There is very little likelihood that any individual can be the continuous illumination in another person‘s life. Each person, while joyous in the company of such a companion, must understand that they, themselves, are still responsible for bringing their own happiness to bear.
In many cases, I hear others complain that they are no longer happy, and they are dropping that blame at the feet of another person. While it might be true that another person can be the cause of one’s unhappiness, it is still a fact that each person must take responsibility for their own happiness quotient, rather than continuously feeling disappointed and ultimately disenfranchised by another, and their actions, or their lack of actions.
If you are going through such a chapter in life, I would highly suggest that you take some time and go through various resources of your choosing and expose yourself to numerous other topics of interest, diversion, engagement, or being of service, in order that you might find your own individual formula to catapult your life back into a happiness of your making.
Happy Sunday!
Brian Weiner 