Do you control your ego? Or does your ego control you?

The ego is an incredibly valuable tool to assist you with everything in life but, like a double-edged sword, your ego can be your single biggest disadvantage as well, predicated upon what your relationship with your ego has evolved into, as of this moment.

Our ego gives us courage, fortifies determination, galvanizes our ability to ultimately prevail in the most tenuous of circumstances, but the ego is equally capable of driving us to make improper decisions to assert ourselves into scenarios that do not require such assertion, to improperly position ourselves in some form of unnecessary competition with others, who do not even know they are competing with us, and so on.

Our ego is capable of raising the volume of specific confrontations, where none needs to exist in the first place.

When we are saddened by an occurrence or a circumstance that has not resolved to our satisfaction, our ego might be the first variable to get its proverbial nose out-of-joint and react inappropriately, thereby leaving its energy in ways that we might wish had never been created.

Conversely, if you have a comfortable relationship both with your ego and with your place in the world, you are more likely to enable your ego to take a backseat to other variables which deserve the front and center attention in such a moment.

When we are comfortable with our ego, we can allow it to be entirely non-present in the majority of situations and circumstances in which we engage.

As a result, our ability to enable others to perceive us as not having a ego that is overly competitive will most usually engender deeper respect, appreciation and friendship from others.

Finding a place in life where you can feel entirely comfortable with whom you are, allows others to quietly learn about who you are, what you stand for, and where your core values truly lie.

There is nothing more obnoxious than an ego that is substantially out of balance with the rest of life.

It creates a stigma that follows that person through life and gives others ample opportunity to shy away from engagement with that person for no other reason that they don’t want to deal with the egotistical personality that is so jarringly present.

When you have a moment, contemplate how and where your ego presents itself in your daily life, and more closely monitor how and why the way that you exhibit your relationship with your ego to others is improving or distracting from the life you most wish to be living… then continually make refinements until you see your world maturing in the directions that you are most desirous of achieving.

Happy Wednesday!