Pain builds walls. Healing builds doors.
When you become angry with someone, do you shut the door on that relationship?
Or are you more inclined to take the time to sort out the disconnect and work towards a more positive outcome?
When we are resistant to allowing any intelligent progress from transpiring, even when the other part is desirous of such, we are constructing a barrier that precludes the other party’s ability to proffer solutions that may be contemplated in order that they are more readily able to build a bridge across the chasm that has been created and heal the relationship back to safe margins.
The inability to find that degree of elasticity, ultimately precludes progress from transpiring and only serves to further alienate both parties, leaving both feeling all the more disconnected and more readily alienated from what was previously a positive space for all.
When we are arriving at such an impasse, we are faced with this core dilemma.
If we continue to build the wall, we work to further remove the possibility of any form of reconciliation. Whereas if we work to create a door, we are opening ourselves to the prospect that a viable solution may well exist and with mutual effort expended on finding it, we may arrive at a new horizon that is defined by civility and intelligence having prevailed over arrogance, greed, disappointment, pain and whatever other negative emotions that have created the discord from the outset.
When you are at such an impasse, work to create the door wherever possible.
Happy Thursday!
Brian Weiner 