Brian Weiner

In a relationship you shouldn’t have to think five steps ahead, walk on eggshells, anticipate their mood, take the blame for all tensions, read their mind, apologize for their behavior and fear they may stop loving you from one day to the next. This isn’t healthy love. It is control.

THE PERSONAL GROWTH PROJECT

Do you find yourself walking on eggshells in any particular relationship? 

In this dynamic, are you compromising your ethics, morals, or politeness, and overall sense of values? 

When we are adept at understanding our own sense of self and we have a fairly clear understanding of our overall preferred rules of engagement and code of conduct, we are in a awkward position when we learn that we are collaborating with others who do not see the world through the same filter as we. 

If we find ourselves in this chasm of uncertainty, we are hard-pressed to determine where our greater loyalties lie, and how we are most willing and desirous of seeing circumstances resolve to our satisfaction. 

If we are trapped in a dynamic in which those feelings are jeopardized for any host of reasons, we must clearly discern for ourselves whether or not we can remain true to our ideology without creating a cause or reason for this relationship to stand up against the resulting internal discord of our decision. 

We are continuously trying to navigate our way to tranquility and prosperity but if we are in the wrong relationship, and we are combating variables, which are gradually becoming untenable, we are slowly left with no further options than to maintain our own sense of dignity and to work prudently to navigate each issue on its own individual merit.

We search to ultimately find a haven within these options in which we feel that we may be able to either coexist or to depart from our untenable circumstances and set sail for a new territory.

When we are bombarded by a caustic personality, we must eventually make some difficult decisions. If clear and constructive communication fails at resolving the problem, then we have no choice but to extricate ourselves and move forward. 

Happy Monday!