JIM VALVANO
Why does a father‘s belief in their child create such a potent formula for success?
When we are young, and we are trying to take on the world, we are with faced with so many apparent obstacles in life as to give us considerable doubt in our abilities.
It is often overlooked, but the mental power that comes through expressed love and support could not be more important to any one of us as we work to forge our path in life.
When a father is extraordinary, his belief in his children carries the foundational support to enable those children to achieve anything in life that they believe they are capable of accomplishing.
As you are growing up, you are far from perfect, and by the time you pass away, you will still be far from perfect, but in our respective degrees of imperfection lies the foundation of capabilities in which we are more likely to thrive, especially if we are riding atop the wind which rises beneath our wings from the confidence and belief that someone so important to us, believes in us.
When you are a child, your father’s belief in you can be so intoxicating as to give you the expectation that you can accomplish anything, if for no other reason, then just because your father believes that you can.
You grow older and you become a father and your understanding of the magnitude of this could not be more important, for it becomes incumbent upon us to instill that same sense of confidence and belief in our children so that they may stand upon our shoulders and elevate their perspectives of themselves. By our enabling them to do this, as we have stood upon the shoulders of our father, we empower each generation to achieve an even higher vantage point than the one prior.
When your father gives you that gift of confidence, nothing in life could be more potent or powerful.
When you truly believe in someone, it is not that you see absolute perfection when you are perceiving them, but rather you are seeing the myriad potential that they exhibit. Your delight in them is like rocket fuel in the sense that when someone is less assured and seeking the opportunity to feel more capable, ready, willing and able to go out into the world and thrive, someone believing in them lights the fuse and starts the rocket on its trajectory.
Your believe in them is a super power. You must use it wisely. Your confidence in them will carry them for a lifetime, long after you are gone.
I lost my father 23 years ago and there is not a day that goes by, that he is not top of mind, and in which I am communicating with him on my own special frequency.
To all the dads out there, keep rocking it! To all the kids out there, keep cherishing your father, because your father is finite in terms of your ability to give them a hug, so when you have that opportunity, make sure to hug them with everything you’ve got.
Happy Father’s Day!
Brian Weiner 