And I wonder
And I wonder
When I sing along with you
If everything could ever be this real forever
If anything could ever be this good again
The only thing I’ll ever ask of you
You’ve got to promise not to stop when I say when
DAVID GROHL
Have you ever had an apex moment? By definition, we all have. An apex is a peak. Highest of the highs. It enables us to rise above our daily experiences and have a glimpse of something more profound. More substantive. More on par with what we have always expected.
After we have had such a moment, we cannot help but crave it because it is such a profoundly moving experience, and obviously, we want as much as we might be able to consume personally.
When the experience has come and gone… we hit the realization that it probably will never be again, and there lies the quandary.
Soon, the moment is nothing more than a fleeting memory that sits in our soul like a gleaming star, shining from the past as remembrance of what was once absolutely amazing.
From that point forward, we all have the place in our hearts in which we keep open to the possibility that such an occurrence might repeat itself. But as with all chapters in life, mitigating factors may very well preclude the possibility of the experience ever repeating. This might be due to circumstance, age, health, the feelings of another and other variables that reduce or eliminate entirely the prospect of such a thing happening again.
I had heard this song, Everlong, by the Foo Fighters numerous times on the radio and had never listened to the lyrics. One day when I was in the right mental space, the song spoke to me and it has never let go. Some say that embracing a philosophy like this is looking at life through a melancholy filter in which you might obstruct even better things from happening. By creating such an apex in your mind, perhaps you are forcing everything that comes along subsequently to be second-best. This is where I would totally disagree.
I would argue that a life well lived would be packed with such moments and that any one particular apex would not in and of itself preclude any others from transpiring. In fact, I would argue the opposite and say that our ability to recognize the prior moment as being such an apex paves the way for our opportunity to see others in whatever form they arrive and recognize them for what they are when they are happening, so that our mind is that much more attuned to appreciation of what is happening in the present moment.
One day, years ago when I heard this song and read the lyrics, I felt the need to play it numerous times in a row. To this date, I cannot explain why it was so important…. But it was.
Sometimes music is one of the only experiences that can find its way quickly into a deep connection with our subconscious. When this happens, we find ourselves gravitating to a song because of the way that it makes us feel. I’m sure that if I task you with making a playlist of the 10 songs that resonate most for you when you are happy versus a list of 10 songs that you listen to when you are feeling low, there would be immediate choices that would start to fill both lists. Is that because of the lyrics? Or the melody? What is the quality that makes these particular tracks connect for you in such an emotion?
I wonder whether or not part of the variables that influence this are the vibrational frequencies of the music. When we dive deep into our bodies all the way down to the subatomic level, it becomes very clear, that there is nothing solid about any aspect of our body. At the tiniest level, every electron is just a wave that is operating at a specific frequency. So if we ourselves are really just a collection of vibrations, it would stand to reason that we must be receptive and susceptible to other vibrations from external forces or stimuli.
This correlation between the frequencies of music and the frequency in which our body vibrates gave me ample room to postulate what could potentially be happening when the right song connects. If we are in a down frame of existence, we are most certainly reflecting that in our vibration… so is it just that the music feels right when we are in that mood? Or is there a deeper phenomenon happening on the subatomic level? I have not researched this, but I am certain others must have and at some point I want to understand the deeper connection.
In the song, Dave postulates whether or not something will ever feel this good again. My answer to that question is that of course it will, you just have to be willing to allow other things to make you feel a similar magnitude to what you are reminiscing about and recognize that that particular experience was what it was and treasure it for that but do not put it on such a high pedestal as to make achieving those feelings within yourself impossible at a future date. That’s the prerequisite to having more experiences in the future that feel equally fulfilling.
Life, complete with all the hills and valleys that we traverse, remains the ultimate experience, It is incumbent upon us to ensure that our journey is populated with a countless number of apexes and therefore we must seek them out and manifest them in our lives as best we may.
Happy Tuesday!
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