Cutting people out of my life, doesn’t mean that I hate them, it means that I respect myself.

Cutting people out of my life, doesn’t mean that I hate them, it means that I respect myself.

The choice to remove someone from your life can be incidental for some people, and substantially consequential for others, depending upon what role or relationship, they play in your world.

A tangential relationship is relatively easy to sever. You stop making contact and allow the relationship to fade into oblivion. Anyone who has spent any significant time in the world of dating apps, regular trade show attendance, or similar, experiences this with regularity. In other circumstances, people with whom we have spent longer periods of time, may give us cause or reason to realize we are better served, not continuing to engage with that person for a host of reasons. These might include personality conflicts, substance-abuse issues, verbal abuse, issues, or temperament issues, to name a few.

If this person has played a relatively significant role in your life, such as a childhood friend with whom you have grown up, it is a much more subtle set of choices that one would need to make in order to allow that relationship to wane. The other party may not be aware of what it is or why it is that is causing you to feel this way and your choice to either make this perfectly clear or to avoid any direct discussion can be one of the most important choices you will make in such a decision. Confronting people about things that are negative aspects of whom they are and how they carry themselves is a choice that comes with long-term consequences, because most people are not willing to listen to or learn from any form of constructive criticism.

There may be cause or reason that necessitates your having to explain this to them, but if you have an expectation that your choice to do so will resolve amicably, you are probably in for a disappointment when that comes to pass.

Then there are the relationships that are heavily interdependent in personal and business, which eventually must be dealt with for a host of reasons. Trying to cut someone of that magnitude out of your life is not an easy choice, nor is it free of substantial consequences across the myriad variables that you and they are sharing.

We find ourselves at specific crossroads in life, in which we are forced to recognize how or why a specific relationship no longer works for us. In the course of that recognition, we realize we either have to continue as we have, and accept the friction that exists, or our own personal self-respect creates a cause or need for us to look at the circumstances for what they are, and to act accordingly.

Life is precious and our willingness and tenacity towards not accepting circumstances that feel unacceptable will always guide our inner emotions to make the right choice. Even if it is an unpopular one.

Respect yourself.

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!