Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

How long can you pretend to be someone you are not? 

Even the greatest of actors are unable to maintain a character for an indefinite period of time. Some of the method actors go into character and do not come out of being that character until they are finished filming the role. But eventually, even they emerge back into their real persona.

Trying hard to be someone or something that you are not is a definitive waste of time. For even if you are able to pass yourself off as that alternate persona, eventually the deeper being inside you will reveal itself and give pause to the party in front of whom you are attempting to pass this charade. 

This is not to be confused with working to evolve parts of your being into a higher state of evolution. In those situations, the longer you can maintain those variables, the greater the likelihood that you will be capable of eventually making yourself become that person.

Today’s aphorism points out the futility of trying to please those who do not warrant your efforts to please them. Instead, it suggests that in the course of continuing to be the deeper being that you are evolving into, you will attract those who find value in your being such a person. 

I believe between Hollywood and Madison Avenue, we are pummeled by a continuous onslaught of messaging telling us we need to be a certain way, act a certain way and speak a certain way in order that we may find acceptance. 

For me, I have learned that a lot of what those messages forecast are of little importance in the qualities I seek in others. I am attracted to those who have deep thoughts, far more than those who are the most attractive humans on the planet. I do not enjoy small talk, and tire very quickly of having to converse on such topics. Usually within a 20 minute window, I begin to find it painful and tiresome.

Instead, I love learning about what makes people whom they have become. What chapters of their life history caused them to make the choices they made… and even more important, how they feel about having made those choices.  Usually this evolves into what is important to them in life, and why, what are they passionate about and what makes them kick their heels out of bed every day and set their world in motion.

Life consists of many chapters. You cannot skip any of them. Some are incredibly joyous, others will rip you to tears for weeks. But any way you shape it, you have to read every line, meet every character. You most certainly will not enjoy all of it. You will end up reading things you do not wish to read and have other moments where you wish the chapter would never end. But each and every day you continue, because that is what is served us in this vibrational field of experience. 

Find and discover who you are in that story and do not waste a minute of your time pretending to be any other character, because eventually, in every story, the truth about each character is revealed and your truth could well prove to be far more interesting and viable than the one you might be selling yourself at the current moment.

Happy Wednesday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!