Don’t give anyone permission to ruin your day.

Do you empower another person to ruin your day? 

If so, why are you willing to allow that to happen? 

I understand that people bring conflict, problems, complications, and disappointments to one another. But that does not necessarily mean that when they do, we have to accept what they have brought to us as being the variable to take one of our precious days on planet Earth and convert it into complete turmoil. 

We are in complete control of our emotions. It is only through our judicious exercise of allowing specific emotions to take front and center, that we are able to distance ourself from worries, struggles, pain, conflict, and find the clear headspace in order to appreciate the day. 

In our work to find our own synergy in this life, we are well served to learn how to put up an internal barrier between these kinds of turmoil and ourselves. This barrier is actually very simple if you explore it. 

For all intent and purpose, this barrier allows us to compartmentalize something that has been eating away at us internally and sequester it into its own small segment of our mind, in order that we might find enjoyment and satisfaction in everything else that we are experiencing, doing, and seeing. 

When something continually remains front and center in our mind, we are in a circumstance that we often times feel that we cannot control. 

Yes, circumstances or stimuli may create a spectrum of emotional experiences. But on any day, these emotion reactions are just responses to stimuli and are therefore, subject to our internal and judicious allocation of our mind space. 

Once we can see that one of these variables is getting the best of us, we are empowered to isolate that as best as we may, so that we may continue about our daily activities. 

There are many circumstances in which we are quick to see those same stimuli return with frequency, thereby keeping us a prisoner in their emotional web. 

But the truth is that with some focus and some practice, we can continually reduce the number of occurrences of them showing up inside of our mind, trying to hijack our emotional resources, and thereby precluding us from being as effective and capable, as we might otherwise be. Once the occurrences are reduced, our control of our own emotions resumes.

Happy Monday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!