Don’t prove yourself. Just improve yourself.

How many wasted hours have you expended trying to prove yourself to someone else?

It might be an employer, coach, casting director, team owner, friend, spouse, lover… regardless of whom you are trying to prove yourself to, you’re truly wasting your time. As soon as you relinquish the power of judging the value of yourself to any other human being, you have relinquished one of your greatest strengths in life. Why do you suppose this is?

You might argue that they are the determinant factor in whether or not you are able to accelerate in the direction that you have forecast for yourself. And in that particular perspective, even though you are correct in stating such, you are still missing the bigger picture.

Regardless of whether or not anyone else has a definitive role in aligning your future goals, there is still only one person in life to whom you must be accountable. And that is yourself. There can be none other.

The choice to improve oneself is a lifestyle. It is not a single event. It requires continual attention, dedication, perseverance, determination, focus, willpower, and most importantly, self-love.

These qualities must be continually cultivated within ourselves or they become lackadaisical and non-effective. It is only through our self-pride and internal desires that we are able to conjure the continual energy to ignore all of the tempting variables which are continuously aiming to drive us off of our best course of action in life.

The older I have grown, the more I have become confident that there is only one entity that requires my continuous determination to prove myself to. And that is my reflection in the mirror. It is by far my hardest judge and it is relentless in its continuous assessment of who I am and who I am willing to assert all of my energy to become. I work with everything I have got to prove myself to that reflection on a daily basis, because as I stare into it, I can truly see myself.

For any of those beings whom you might feel you must prove yourself to, I would advise you that if you seek to win their admiration or similar, the sure fire way to achieve that goal is to stay myopically focused on improving yourself. The rest will happen organically because you will continuously be presenting the very best you have to offer. Nothing less will suffice. 

Happy Saturday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!