Everyone wants to be the sun to brighten someone’s life, but why not be the moon to shine on someone’s darkest hour?
Everyone knows someone who is going through extremely trying times. Probably far more than one person. Most camouflage it as minimal, but deep inside, their battle rages on.
Some of us probably guess that another is hurting deep within, but we do not venture to the topic, for fear of overstepping a boundary.
The constant lockstep of humanity marching forward maintains a pace that many are unable to match. They lose the rhythm over any one of hundreds of causes and they spend countless amounts of time working to find a way to catch up, hold on and get back into the rhythm. We probably are aware of some of their misfortunes or stresses in life, but many others are hidden from sight, far from our ability to understand or to help emotionally, financially or physically.
When I see people who’s lives are hitting a tough patch, at a minimum, I try to check in with something bright and friendly. Many times, they do not want to share or speak of the problem, they want to keep it tucked away, but the effort that is made in the course of sending smiles and some love goes a long way. Far more than we, the purveyors of such, might imagine.
When you are on the receiving end of such kindness, you get a proverbial rise in your emotions, if for no other reason, than knowing that someone really cares. Someone is thinking of you and going out of their way to express that care in a method that they know you are incredibly appreciative of receiving.
Why does this seem to matter so much?
Life can be an incredibly lonely journey. Humans, as herd animals, are not made for solitude. When we are around another with whom we feel the connection, the combined energy is beyond traditional calculation, (2+2 = 22). When you are hurting or scared or nervous or disappointed, there is genuine comfort in being with another who respects what you are feeling and cares enough to connect and let you know that way out there, wherever they are, that they too, are thinking of you and your issue and wish your state of mind to improve.
This holiday season, perhaps you can look through some of your text streams and social media and zero in on a couple of those who need that extra love at a tough moment in their life. Find something special to say or do for them that connects far deeper than the traditional approach, and help them to find their way back into the lockstep of the march of humanity.
It will make a world of difference to them, and simultaneously, it will be the very best gift you can give yourself during this holiday season.