Give people time. Give people space. Don’t beg anyone to stay. Let them roam. What’s meant for you, will always be yours.

Give people time. Give people space. Don’t beg anyone to stay. Let them roam. What’s meant for you, will always be yours.

Have you ever worked too hard to maintain a relationship with someone?

When you found yourself doing this, did you feel that you were potentially compromising your values and your morals? 

At some point, did you wake up to the reality that you were in an unhealthy dynamic that either needed to be rectified or left behind? 

We are so quick to try and nurture every positive glimmer of an opportunity or a relationship, that we are perhaps less discriminate about which of these truly warrant our focus and our attention. 

In this distinction, we are forced to sort through the variables that are connecting for us with this person, and have a greater understanding of what is going to ultimately deliver the satisfaction that would be expected from such a relationship dynamic. 

Yet there are unquestionably moments where we are confronted with variables that are not to our liking, and which give us significant pause for concern. 

In those moments, we are forced to make specific decisions as relates to the people with whom we are engaging, and in the course of making those decisions, we must ultimately weigh, and then evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of this particular dynamic as relates to our overall life strategy and goals. 

The old adage, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If not, it was never meant to be,“ could not be more appropriate. 

The more we are determined to create confining boundaries in a relationship to potentially wrangle someone into staying in a dynamic that does not work for them, the more we expend energy that is useless and overall wasted in the course of our actions. 

At a certain point, we all must be fully confident and secure that the relationships and opportunities that should belong to us, will, and the ones that are not appropriate, will not do well. 

This may not be the easiest of terms to acquiesce to. At a minimum, we are situating ourselves on solid ground, so that we are not building castles in the sky that have no foundation and no bearing on the reality that we are living in. 

Happy Wednesday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!