Have a good heart and healthy boundaries. Otherwise, your life is for everyone else and you lose yourself. Kindness is everything, but setting limits allows you to remain true to who you are.

Have a good heart and healthy boundaries. Otherwise, your life is for everyone else and you lose yourself. Kindness is everything, but setting limits allows you to remain true to who you are.

KRISTEN BUTLER

Where do you set your personal boundaries?

When someone approaches you, do you always help them? Or at a certain point, do you draw a line? 

Protecting ourselves from a continuous stream of people that are looking for our personal input, guidance, assistance, intelligence, financial aid, or professional input is very important. If we are not aware of maintaining specific parameters, any boundary between your time, and what everybody else expects of your time… evaporates. 

I find that if I know my boundaries in advance, I’m going to be less likely to interact beyond them, when the opportunity presents itself. 

I maintain very specific answers in mind, so that when one of those circumstances arises, I have the resources to instantly make my boundaries to the third-party known in a polite and tactful way, such that hopefully I do not either hurt them nor alienate them in the process. 

It has been my experience that there are many people who have no concept of these kinds of boundaries. Consequently, as I work to make my way in life, I am continuously trying to help everyone that I may, while simultaneously maintaining a preservation of territory that I have delineated as specifically and only mine.

In taking direct action on this choice, you create a safety zone in which you may operate on a daily basis. Simultaneously, as these parameters are potentially crossed, there is a viable and intelligent solution, to holding on to all that is ours, while simultaneously being a citizen of society with willingness and determination to be a good influence to society at large and specific individuals whom we deem worthy of our time and our resources. 

Stay protective of yourself, you are all you’ve got.

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!