Hurting Someone Can Be As Easy As Throwing A Stone In The Sea
I love words. The more descriptive or specific the word is, the more I enjoy it. But if anything has been made very clear, it is that the wrong words can be lethal. Devastating. Unfair. And intensely harmful.
When we are young, we hurl words at one another without forethought or consideration.
As the recipient of negative statements, we recoil in a wide range of emotions. As the distributor of negative statements, we launch an unforeseen range of emotions, mostly predicated upon things that we ourselves are not even aware that the recipient is harboring deep within.
As we get older, and people reveal aspects of their weaker traits, we are more prone to leverage our knowledge to ensure that whatever negative thing we might be saying strikes the intended chord.
Then, predicated upon the personality traits of the person distributing the words, the potential pain, shame, disappointment, fear, rage or other emotions will inevitably be kindled to the shallow delight of the person saying the negative statement.
How long or how deep that statement is able to penetrate the recipient should in most cases be entirely up to the recipient’s capability to process statements of this kind and either brush it off or take it to heart.
Sadly, most people are not trained to study the person who is making these statements and assess them for their own critical flaw that causes them to feel reason to be caustic in their choice of communication.
And right there, the boundary between a single word, and a potential lifetime of that word haunting them is discovered.
The older I get, the more decisive I find myself in clearly articulating the way that I feel in non-accusatory, non-insulting, non-inflammatory manner.
Often times, you can be much better served by taking the time to use words that empower the other person to help you achieve whatever result you are trying to achieve using diplomacy, courtesy, respect and appreciation for who they are as an individual.
Words are your friend. Treating them as such allows you to treat your friends and all the people with whom you deal, positively or negatively, with courtesy and a deferential quality that reduces the potential of leaving a lifetime of pain in another for a tiny moment of expressing how you feel.