I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.

I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.

Have you ever tried to explain yourself to someone who just doesn’t get it?

What did you do in the end? Did you give up? Did you concede? Did you ultimately decide that it wasn’t worth your time? Or did you keep trying even harder to make your point known?

We are continuously working to be understood, in our own unique fashion. As we grow older, and we have opportunity to engage with many different kinds of personalities, we become that much more aware that there are so many disparities between people, that our chances of being clearly understood by a majority of them is nearly impossible.

So when you find yourself in one of those situations in which the other party is clearly not receiving the communication you are trying to impart to them, you are left with only a couple of options that make any real sense.

You might opt to say to them that you do not feel that they are processing what you are saying, and ask them kindly to please allow you to explain an additional time, and in the course of your doing so, you might choose a completely different set of nomenclature to use in the process of making yourself understood by the other party.

Conversely, if you are the party that is not understanding somebody, and they keep trying to explain to you, using the exact same words they just used, you recognize that if you aren’t understanding what they are expressing on a general basis, there’s no way for you to ultimately absorb and process the bigger communication, that they are trying to impart upon you.

So, putting yourself in the receiving position, teaches you that when someone is not understanding you, you might be best served trying it in a different communication pathway, so that the other party has a fair chance of grasping that which you are communicating.

Failing any opportunity for increased comprehension of what is being communicated, your next option is really binary… you either concede, and allow them to believe whatever it is that they are believing, or are you express to them that they’re clearly not understanding what you’re communicating, and you withdraw from the conversation.

Both of those options are fallback positions, and nowhere near as valuable as finding a way to communicate intelligently with the other party and persuasively entice them to see the situation from your perspective.

The choice is always yours.

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!