It’s hard to turn the page when you know someone won’t be in the next chapter, but the story must go on.

It’s hard to turn the page when you know someone won’t be in the next chapter, but the story must go on.

THOMAS WILDER

Turning the page can be one of the most excruciating exercises we might ever put ourselves through.

Even if we have known in our hearts that this day would someday arrive, it is always too soon, and always at the most inopportune time… especially in the case of losing a friend or loved one. When the moment surrounds an untimely death, all of the parties are left wondering what transpired and lamenting the incredible void that losing such a person leaves in their wake.

In the case of a relationship ending, where one or both partners do not want it to end, but circumstances dictate no other possible alternative, the weight of the world settles upon your shoulders and the painful decision must ultimately be made and lived by.

Sometimes this moment comes at the revelation that someone you believed was your friend or on your side, has proven otherwise, and the only option left is to sever the relationship and move on. No matter what the trespass was that gives you cause to part company, there will always be the lingering remembrances that keep a portion of what you held valuable between you, alive.

Finding the courage and fortitude to turn the page, is one of life’s greatest, and most uncomfortable lessons. In some cases, the page is turned quickly out of anger, but there is a lingering doubt that wants to keep flipping backwards to comfortable territory, rather than accept the page is turned and hereafter read forward.

Anthony Banks and Phil Collins of Genesis, most adeptly ensconced these feelings in a song, Fading Lights:

Like the story that we wish was never ending

We know some time we must reach the final page

Still we carry on just pretending

That there’ll always be one more day to go

And one day, there are no more days to go. The moment is there and the page has turned already, or you must choose to turn it.

If you know anyone who is suffering this cataclysmic loss through the holidays, reach out to them with extra tenderness. You honestly cannot begin to know their frame of mind, until you have been there, yourself.

Happy Tuesday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!