Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in that recognition.

Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in that recognition.


Have you ever wondered what it is specifically that makes you fall in love with another person?

We might be quick to say that it is a physical attraction that enables us to feel a yearning to be with the other person, but that, in and of itself, is not love. 

We might say it is the elusive chemistry between two people that gives way to these feelings, but underneath that elusive chemistry, what specifically is driving this? 

Is there a definition of what is really transpiring, as our love grows for another person? 

When we explore a bit deeper, we are quick to recognize that the elusive chemistry is predicated upon variables that are both physical, mental, as well as emotional. 

This chemistry is formulating in your mind based upon observations that are giving way to assumptions. The more that we are able to observe, the more that we are able to assume specific details. 

It is said that opposites attract, but even if there is an attraction between the opposite parties, there are certain qualities about ourselves that we are seeing in the other party, that are causing the attraction to formulate. 

In this attraction, we are evaluating myriad variables that are important to us, and seeing where there are similarities in perspectives, lifestyles, interests, dislikes, approaches, intelligence, personality, and so much more. 

Our core recognition that the other party attracts us, is the foundation upon which all relationships are based. 

In our exploration of another party, we are exposed to many of the details that are both apparent or discoverable, and through this exposure, we are looking to find alignment and commonality that will give us a foundation upon which to build. 

This is equally true in non-romantic relationships. When we find a friend whom we grow to love, we are sensing within them, many of the things that we treasure, and in that discovery, our delight in learning more about them, spending time with them, and sharing philosophies with them, all flourish. 

We are always a work in progress and unquestionably, as we mature, we are continuously seeking to find the proper stimuli in our world that both reinforces the qualities about ourselves that we admire, as well as seeking role models in others whom we wish to emulate. 

Happy Thursday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!