Never wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.

Never wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.

Such a fine line to walk in life. 

From our earliest exposures, we are surrounded with a continuous stream of reinforcing the adage “an eye for an eye.” From the Bible, to literature, to Hollywood and gaming… the message is that revenge is not only appropriate, it is expected.

But is that truly the path for a peaceful warrior?

I will postulate that it is not. 

As a creative writer, storyteller, filmmaker, and business operator (in Hollywood), there have been countless moments in my life where those opportunities have flashed with full force through my aggrieved mind. I have fashioned countless plots of whom I wish to seek my revenge upon, and how I would go about doing it. I have come up with some very creative ideas and methods.

And yet….

I have never once acted on those impulses.

Are the thoughts themselves normal? Presumably yes. But is the choice to act upon them reasonable? No. 

Karma is the universal vehicle that settles the debts in life. We do not need to be the personal arbiters of meting out the punishment or revenge. To the contrary, as we opt to act in such a manner, we are lowering our own vibration down to a level on par with those who have done us wrong, and left our own karma open to the wrong vibrations going forward.

Too new age for you? Ok… I get it. Then look at it this way.

When you extract a revenge, you are acting in a manner that does not befit your grace as a human being. Revenge could potentially bring you a moment of relief and satisfaction. But that moment is fleeting. From that day forward, you are now a person who has lowered yourself to behaving in a manner that was not how you conducted yourself prior. Is that really who you wish to become? Did your action undo the damage that was caused you by them previously?

Instead, would it not be a wiser choice to recognize that you are a sentient human being, capable of recognizing the distinction between the way that they are behaving and the way you are willing to conduct yourself? In the choice to see yourself in a higher state of existence than them, is it truly a good choice to lower yourself down to the behaviors that they have exhibited that have caused you to feel so aggrieved?

Revenge is wonderful in fiction. We want to see the villain get their just deserts. But in reality, our choice to mete out the punishment is simply not the solution. 


Find a quiet place in your heart and look for that window of grace that enables you to just wish that they heal from whatever it is that causes them to behave in such a manner and then let it go. You can only escalate in your own personal growth by opting for this choice of behaviors.

Happy Monday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!