No one can know you the way that you do. Therefore, never put what others say about you above what you know to be true yourself.

No one can know you the way that you do. Therefore, never put what others say about you above what you know to be true yourself.

Every human being deserves the opportunity to develop a very healthy self image of themself.

Given the opportunity to create such an image, everyone needs to be secure in whom they believe themselves to be. When this proves to be the case, a large majority of people are able to circumvent the unnecessary negativity that comes from interaction with certain other parties who are potentially determined to diminish the value that they see (or do not see) in another human being.

There can be many reasons why a person would choose to desecrate you either to your face or behind your back. None of those circumstances need have any bearing on your life whatsoever. If you have self control, and a positive self image, you have the resources to rebuff this negative energy. You only need understand that they are revealing the insecure needs of the originator.

Understanding the difference between knowing oneself and being true to oneself versus not willing to learn from others about how one might improve oneself is an equally gray area. To listen to this aphorism, one might walk away feeling self empowered to put anything that anyone says about you is far less important than what you know to be true about yourself…. But… what if you are wrong?

I am wrong. A lot. Almost daily. My ideas are not always the best ones. My choices are not always the right ones. I am a work in progress. (And I am betting, if you are honest, that you are as well.) So the prospect of remaining impervious to what others think of us, is not the wisest of options either.

If you are humble and allow for your flaws, then while you may never value another person’s opinion of you over that of your own, you may be wise to consider (with frequency) that they may be correct and you may well be wrong.

Whether you are communicating how you feel to a physician, a friend, a lover, a co worker or other, you know who you are in the process. You know the details inside you that are not up for debate. You know who you are, how you feel, how you engage, and how you react. 

So if another is raining on your parade by giving you cause to feel saddened by their impression of you, then perhaps the best of all lessons you may learn is that “beauty is truly within, and only certain people are actually able to witness it about you. 

If the others do not, it literally does not matter. Believe in yourself.

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!