People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you. Pay attention.
People may not always tell you how they feel about you, but they will always show you. Pay attention.
Are you certain where you stand with specific people in your life?
How exactly are you certain?
Do you believe everything they say?
Or do you watch specifically what they do?
The chasm between those two can often be far more expansive than we might, at first, presume. The opportunity to connect with other people, generate a bond, build a friendship, fall in love, or any permutation in between, is one of life‘s greatest joys.
That said, there are plenty of times when someone may be willing to pay you lip service, so that you are hearing exactly what you want to hear, even though from their perspective, their feelings are far more disparate than what they express.
If you give people enough time, and provide enough opportunity, almost without question, they will eventually identify your minimal importance in comparison to deeper feelings that they are harboring, and in their actions, you will see a full reveal.
Many times, we are blind to someone’s actions, and in the course of this, we are deluding ourselves into believing something is true, when, in fact, it may not be even remotely as true as we believe. There are many people who are more than willing to use another human being to enable them to achieve some goal in their lives that the other party is able to facilitate.
If you are the party that is being used, there is a large emotional let down that awaits you when you wake up to discover that you were just a chess piece, and they were moving skillfully around with you, such that they might accomplish whatever it is they were setting out to accomplish.
I think it is a wise opportunity to extend ourselves on behalf of other people. I try to make it a point to make the first overture of kindness in a friendship, through whatever appropriate expression of that kindness makes best sense for the situation.
That said, it always fascinates me to watch whether there is any form of reciprocity, appreciation, acknowledgment, or anything to allow me to understand the party with whom I am engaging. When the response is minimal or nonexistent, I become fully aware that there is a great likelihood that my suppositions about that party are not as accurate as I may have hoped, and as a result, I find myself second-guessing, whether or not I want to continue to be as benevolent as I had started out in the beginning.
If you give somebody long enough, you can almost always read them like a book.
Stay aware, and happy Tuesday!
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