November 3, 2023 by Brian Weiner No CommentsChanging The World One Thought At A Time., Lessons From The Mountain

Posture is language.

Posture is language.

DOUG IVANOVICH

Do you study the subtle art of nonverbal communication?

As we mature, and we are able to see the disparities in all of these tiny details, we become all the more aware of how, and why, they are so important to our overall skills.

When someone is sitting perfectly straight and eyes looking forward attentively, there is a very different vibe than someone who is slouched down in a chair, shrinking backwards into the corner.

Paralanguage includes the non-language elements of speech, such as your talking speed, pitch, intonation, volume and more.

One of the most common forms of nonverbal communication is facial expressions. Using the eyebrows, mouth, eyes and facial muscles to convey emotion or information can be very effective.

Strategically, using eye content (or lack of eye contact) is an extremely effective way to communicate your attention and interest. Some people also use touch as a form of communication. Most commonly, it is used to communicate support or comfort.

These very obvious distinctions help to point out so many of the little details that we are genuinely not thinking about in our day-to-day interactions with others. If someone is speaking with you and their legs are crossed, or their arms are crossed, they are in a defensive posture, and they are communicating that they are feeling a need to defend themselves against whatever it is in that situation they are against.

Whereas the converse, with legs and arms uncrossed, conveys a more opportune scenario in which that person is considerably more desirous of engaging.

When we are learning how to observe these kinds of details, we are all the more cognizant of what is truly being communicated at that moment.

If you are speaking with someone who does not wish to look you in the eyes with any regularity, there is a lack of confidence which precludes them from wanting to make direct eye connection and engage with you on whatever level that engagement might be.

Each of these variables are interconnected and combinations of them, unquestionably manifest in the course of different communication.

In our quest to be clearly understood, and to avoid confusion in our day-to-day communications, having a very clear understanding of how, and why these signals are, in fact, a language of their own, could not be more important.

Happy Friday!

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Doug Ivanovich

Written by Brian Weiner

When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!