Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder.
When one is mad, it is so much easier to scream. One gets an instant release, an opportunity to watch harsh words strike another, and see their hurt reaction.
That option has tremendous short term value. In many cases it actually feels good to let it all out and say what needs to be said.
But with every passing second after it has left one’s mouth, the return on that option decreases in extreme proportion in relationship to the short term benefit of releasing one’s emotion.
Any possible alternate opportunity is instantly eradicated in the choice of harsh words. Any opportunity for correcting a misunderstanding that could have led to those harsh words being said is dramatically reduced.
And all possibility for everything being as good as it was prior to those words being uttered, is eliminated forever.
As children, we are far more susceptible to our Id. Freud would say that we allow the Id to harshly control a spectrum of our behavior.
But as adults, if we are practical, we learn to find a large chasm between the stimulus and the response, thereby enabling us to elevate our words and potentially utilize our strategy and our intellect to greater potential.
I think the aphorisms that Rumi wrote are among the world’s best. This one is so simple but it is so important for everyone to learn.