Some things lookin’ better, baby Just passin’ through
Some things lookin’ better, baby
Just passin’ through
Have you ever been attracted to an opportunity, an experience or a person that proved to be a limited desire?
Perhaps it was a flirtation with a musical instrument that you felt that you wished to learn how to play, a job you wished to perform, an art form that looked appealing or perhaps it was a personal relationship, friendly or romantic, that struck an intense early chord, and awakened something within you that made you feel as if you wanted to continue, only to discover there was cause or reason to let that circumstance go.
Whenever we are working towards something that captures an intense initial impression, we find ourselves gravitating towards making that experience or relationship something that we believe will be lifelong in our world.
And then something happens, and for whatever reason, we are awakened to the fact that perhaps it was not the right choice for us.
At that point in time, we are fairly likely to abandon our pursuit of this endeavor or this relationship and continue to shepherd our own personal world in the directions that are most appropriate for us.
There is no shame in exploring something new, even if it turns out to be short-lived. In that pursuit, we are that much more exposed to variables which enable us to be more in tune with what we ultimately desire and expect out of our lives.
In many cases, it takes exposure to circumstances or individuals that are not within our chosen parameters, to ultimately give us the opportunity to learn from these experiences, and discover that much more about ourselves along the way.
Some may look back at having devoted time to one of these pursuits with remorse, and feel as if the time expended was entirely a waste.
I would argue that it was exactly the opposite. I would share that in the course of exposing yourself to so many experiences, people, opportunities and dynamics, we are ultimately evolving ourselves, even if we are not fully conscious of the impact of such an evolution.
Case in point, I was a victim of violent crime in my home at age 20. At age 47, whether I was conscious of this or not, I started learning karate and earned two black belts. This weekend, I earned my third black belt and I am starting to work on my fourth. I did not choose this path, nor would I ever have gravitated to it. But life exposed me to something that was catalytic and my internal being evolved.
Ultimately our opportunity to do this, yields an ever greater expansion of our internal definitions of what is important to us, and enables us to further our priorities, and expand our horizons in many different and unique ways.