Sometimes you think you want to disappear but all you really want is to be found.

Sometimes you think you want to disappear but all you really want is to be found.


I think we have all been here at points in our lives. There are those moments where life appears to have passed us over, and left us behind. So while others appear to be enjoying the stream of life in full swing, our world has become oppressive and almost untenable. Those are moments we feel like we wish we could just disappear. They are the ones where we have zero left to give anyone or anything. All that we have in that moment is the spark of life that allows us to hang on.

In those moments, sometimes a real friend finds us and reaches out. There is a hesitation in us that says, “I have nothing of value to say to this person right now, so I really do not want to answer their call, or text or email. I just want to be left alone.” 

But somewhere, deep inside there is a scared inner child within you that is hoping and praying to be found, rescued, and nurtured. You just do not have even the strength to recognize that because everything else has become so overwhelming as to dwarf any of those human comforts. 

That is when a real friend finds you and discovers a way to physically or mentally wrap an arm around you and help you back into civilization again. We do not feel that we even want this at that moment, but deep inside, as this aphorism points out, we really do.

During the holidays, I invite you to look around and recognize with all of the covid related issues and financial related issues that there are probably more people in your life who are at this stage or sliding desperately into this stage than you may truly imagine.

This year, perhaps Jeff Bezos has made enough money from your purchases that yet another gift from you through Jeff to another is not the real solution.  

This year, perhaps the best gift you can give someone is true quality time. Even if that is sitting beside them, and just being there. Look for the people in your world who really need this more than anything and give of yourself, not of your money. Make the time. Make that phone call. Drive cross town and go for a meal, drink or cup of coffee.

Learn to communicate from the heart.

And more than anything…. Learn how to give an amazing hug!  Not the proverbial arms out and slapping their back like a bro hug…. I mean a hug…. One that communicates that you really care, that you recognize them and their internal need to be found and appreciated.

You never know, that hug could be the first step towards helping them back into the light.

And wouldn’t that be a gift for the holidays?

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!