Is anger a valuable tool?
In my experience, for the most part, it is a huge Achilles’ heel that threatens the normalcy of any circumstance by throwing the equilibrium of the moment completely out of balance.
I would love to report that my self control has continually saved me from suffering the repercussions of being angry, but that would be a complete fallacy. If anything, my anger has taught me that it is very weakest part of my overall being and has readily led to moments of my own significant disappointments.
I try my best to maintain a policy of never putting anything in writing and sending to anyone unless it is a positive message. But anger has a mind of its own and it is more than willing to speak out without permission at a moment of stress or complete frustration.
That said, to be so complacent as to allow things that are truly unfair to continue without recourse is also not a winning solution. The necessity for diplomacy and strong conviction could not be more obvious in the face of oppression, bullies and other unfair circumstances.
Angry encounters seldom end in positive outcomes for both parties. It is much more beneficial to let diplomacy run its due course in the hopes of finding a mutual win scenario.
Failing that option, leaves one of two basic categories of choice: which are to either ignore and walk away or stand and fight. Neither of these two options are particularly viable or desirable, but when things get out of control, the best we can do is to find ourselves in one of these situations and try our very best to accelerate our efforts towards an acceptable solution, regardless of methodology or determination.
I get angry with myself. Sometimes it’s for eating the ice cream I did not need, or any one of the other minutia in my life which, in retrospect, I look back on and wish I had opted otherwise. The truth is, being angry at oneself is just as wrong as leveraging our anger at another party. The correct answer is to love yourself, and in that love find a way of healing whatever is causing you to do the things that you are not happy about.
In today’s aphorism, I believe that the word anger has to be put through a filter. I believe at the end of the day what Ang really means is that sometimes you have to get a deeper emotion behind specific circumstances, if we are able to rise above them and prevail. That deeper emotion, which he calls anger, is the stimuli to accelerate larger than normal response to resolving the issue at hand.
The trick then, is to learn that that emotion should not meet the tool set in your mind called anger and should instead, meet a toolset called intelligent conflict resolution.
I hope someday I am able to constructively build that tool set in my mind as a permanent feature that is indelible. I hope you have a great Friday!
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