It takes courage and bravery to show up for yourself and express what you want.
Are you truly a great advocate for yourself?
At first blush, we might all assume that we are such. But upon closer examination, we are not as good at this as we might be.
These moments show up throughout the spectrum of our lives. In our personal relationships, professional relationships and our interactions with third parties or entities, etc.
Sometimes we just suck it up and allow things to be. Other times we might be so angry, disappointed, annoyed, scared or intimidated as to derail the opportunity in which we would wish that we were “together” enough to have handled with tact, courtesy and decorum.
It is difficult, while in the peak of emotion, to stay clear and focused and operate in a consistent manner with how we believe we might behave. In these emotional swings, our judgement and reason are awash with distortion and muddied with the lack of clarity that arises from feeling off center.
It is in those moments that I believe Christine’s aphorism rings most clearly. Navigation through our own distorted emotions is critical in order that we may truly show up for ourselves and clearly communicate our needs. The courage to overcome an emotion swing from rage to fear and come off as strong and effective is no small feat. Our ability to see through the current tide of emotion and envision an outcome that will honestly reflect what we have predetermined to be our true need, and then to simultaneously be capable of expressing that to whatever party is required in order that we may see our requirements met, is a complex combination of skillsets, each requiring their own specific parameters of self control, intelligence and proper communication.
The quality of life available to each of us will ultimately depend on our ability to understand each of these skillsets and to find the courage and determination to vocalize our needs in the most understandable and tactful means possible.
Having personally both succeeded and failed miserably at these key moments in life, I can only share that learning to master this quality from within, can be among the most cathartic and life-changing choices we can focus our energies on.
Find the courage and be your own best advocate. Once you have done so, you will never be willing to settle for less again.