The abuse did not make you strong. You overcame it because you’re already strong. Let’s not give abusers credit for making us strong.
The abuse did not make you strong. You overcame it because you’re already strong. Let’s not give abusers credit for making us strong.
Was there a specific chapter in your life in which you felt abused?
Abuse takes many shapes and is delivered to people through countless different relationships.
It might come from an employer, teacher, coach, spouse, sibling, child, relative, or friend, but whichever place the abuse comes from, it leaves us feeling in a considerably lower position than we were prior to it having commenced.
We are continuously trying to ward off any form of negative interactions because we have discovered through life experience that allowing those who would abuse us to continue to do so is just a slow and sometimes painfully quiet form of torture and misery.
When we are aware enough of the ramifications of our having been abused, we become that much more cognizant of how, where, when and why this is happening. So much so that in many cases, we can almost anticipate the circumstances under which it might transpire again.
This leaves us with one of two choices. On one side, we might choose to weather the abuse regardless of its outcome on us.
There are most certainly circumstances where that truly proves to be the best, and perhaps only option at our disposal at that moment in time.
Yet, there are other circumstances in which we are fully aware of the cause for said abuse, and it becomes incumbent upon us to recognize and acknowledge it for what it truly is, and then more importantly, for us to stay diligent as to our precluding such abuse from continuing to transpire.
We might find countless ways of either thwarting the cause of the abuse, or escaping from the abuse but, whichever methodology we use to extricate ourselves, it was always our efforts that ultimately relinquished us from its grasp, and empowered us to move forward with our lives in an unencumbered fashion.
When we are finally liberated, we might often look back from that position of empowerment, and make a presumption that it was only due to the abusers that we were able to grow strong enough to rise up and liberate ourselves from those circumstances… but the reality is that we were always strong enough, we just needed to find the specific breaking point that became catalytic enough to cause us to transcend that moment in our lives, and replace it with circumstances that were outside the abuser’s control or reach.
If you have been in such a situation, you will ultimately recognize that only through your own hard work and effort, were you able to ultimately rise up and seek the freedom that you were hoping to find.
Stand tall and proud and remain responsible for your own destiny.
Happy Saturday!
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