To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others, you need to accept yourself.

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others, you need to accept yourself.

Many of us have encountered moments in which we do not feel that we fit in to a particular group or experience.

This generates an innate sense of alienation that is uncomfortable and gives us cause to wish to disappear.

But, is it really necessary for us to feel that way? Is it possible that we might actually be fully capable of feeling every bit as comfortable, standing in a group in which we do not feel synergistic, without our feeling any negative feelings towards ourselves?

Most certainly, these abilities stem from self-confidence, combined with a realization that we are whom we choose to be. We will never be synergistic with everybody, even if we wish to socialize or engage with them.

Once those insecure feelings are quelled, we are that much more capable of assimilating into any circumstance, knowing fully well that we are highly confident in whom we are, and as a direct result, we project that clearly to others.

Accepting oneself does not preclude the yearning to continue to improve oneself in any category that one desires. The choice to accept and appreciate oneself is actually the foundation that enables one to set forth on any kind of self improvement they wish to pursue. If you are comfortable with who you are, and you see areas that you would like to better over time, then you are that much more capable of finding your pathway to those experiences, in order that you might fulfill your deeper desires.

The age old adage is that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” I would dispute that and say that “everything and every one has beauty, but only certain people are capable of recognizing it in another.”

Being yourself with pride, dignity and humility could not be more important in life. Getting comfortable with what you are not is just as important as being comfortable with whom you are. Knowing that there are clearly some limitations that will preclude you from some options in life, should not deter your desire to seek the very most you can make of your short time on this 3D illusion called Earth. Perhaps decrease any time you are willing to expend upon seeking acceptance from others and work with greater frequency to not only accept yourself, but to appreciate who you are and whom you are evolving into.

Happy Thursday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!