Understanding is much deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know us. But very few who understand us.

Understanding is much deeper than knowledge. There are many people who know us. But very few who understand us.

Knowing something to be true is a far cry from understanding why it is so. We are able to discern various qualities about other people and therefore we know them to be a certain personality type or to have certain characteristics that are readily identifiable. But in most cases, we are hard-pressed to understand how or why they are the way that they are.

There are so many variables that contribute to the qualities of a human being. Some are biological, ancestral, behavioral, societal and so much more. In our attempt to have meaningful relationships with other human beings we are often privileged to dive beneath the surface veneer in order that we might learn more about how and why a specific person is behaving or how their belief system was formulated.

The learning about how and why a character behaves the way that they do, formulates the greatest works of fiction, film, television and theater. We, as an audience, thrive on the revelation, layer by layer, of how and why a protagonist or an antagonist came to be who they are in this moment of conflict with one another.

When we are quick to judge another person, we must always remember that we are not privy to the circumstances that gave them cause or reason to act in the way that they are acting at this moment in time. We might be arrogant enough to presuppose that we fully understand them, but in most cases that is a complete illusion. In most cases, we do not have the first clue as to how and why they are the way that they are. 

I would venture to guess that in most circumstances, were we to write down our supposition and then have a meaningful conversation with the other party, we would be lucky if we were able to get as much as 50% accuracy in our suppositions. 

In many cases, people are not even aware on a conscious level how and why they are thinking, feeling and behaving the way that they do. It is just who they are. So they do not take the time to extrapolate how or why they choose to act the way they do or choose to do the things that they are doing.

In the recognition that most people do not really understand why we do the things that we do, perhaps we are most wise in transposing that recognition on to our view of others so that we are more tolerant about the things that we do not understand. Happy Monday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!