When I am finally tired of trying, I will just leave. No fight. No argument. And sometimes, not even a good bye. 

When I am finally tired of trying, I will just leave. No fight. No argument. And sometimes, not even a good bye. 

How important is it to you to have the last word?

We often feel as if having one last and final decisive comment is of the highest importance to us, and yet, in many cases, it is extraordinarily fruitless to want or expect such an opportunity.

If it is critical to you to have the last word, then you might consider an apology, for that is the most successful way of getting the last word into a situation.

Shy of that, when it is over. It is over. 

Our insane desire to be the last one to say something is entirely ego-driven and wholly immaterial to whether or not any revised outcome of that situation will be likely to transpire.

When a relationship, business or personal, has finally run its course, we are wise to assess the situation for the truth, and if the truth is that the circumstances are irreconcilable, and the relationship is not salvageable, it is far better to cut the ties and move forward, than to continue to cling onto minutia that you are less likely to ever piece back together.

Many of us become fixated on minutia details that ultimately mean nothing, but once they get stuck, metaphorically in our craw, we seem to feel a unquenchable desire to right a wrong or undo a misconception (or similar), in order that that nagging feeling in our internal dialogue can be satiated, simply by working on an attempted reconciliation of something that is simply never gonna happen.

Once you discover that it is far easier just to give up and walk away, you will save yourself countless hours of frustration and anxiety that might have otherwise been entirely expended on variables that truly don’t matter in any stretch of the imagination.

The secret, I believe, is the understanding on our end, that we would ultimately garner the greater benefits in life for being adept at assessing circumstances, and wise at evaluating what we have learned and prompt at taking decisive action to ensure that we do not expend any portion of our lives, negotiating circumstances that just cannot be negotiated.

Happy Sunday!


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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!