When you are a good person, you do not lose people, they lose you.

Over the course of time, we find that some people are a chapter, while some are a story and others, the entire novel.

They pass through our lives, leaving their mark… Some bring lessons, others, great joy, and others deliver us negative experiences we work to extricate ourselves from.

What you will observe, as the years pass, is that if you are a really good soul… If you go out of your way to be genuine in your approach to daily life, each of the details, each of the behaviors and each of the plans of action you embody will cumulatively come to define you. 

So if you are a good person, you are still going to lose people in your life, regardless of how good you may happen to be. They may be friends, family members, colleagues, acquaintances, lovers or collaborators… it is just a natural ebb and flow.

Given how much you may feel you have done to warrant not losing that relationship, it still happens, whether you wish for it to be so, or not.

That is where the magic takes place or it doesn’t.

A wise person would experience the loss and then let it go, whereas a less-schooled individual would let it eat their heart out for an interminable amount of time.

The wise person knows (most probably from experience), that if you spend time eating your heart out, the outcome is still the same and you have lost the time spent eating your heart out… which might have been used considerably more productively and enjoyably.

Given that you are that vibrant human being, then in their departure, you may clearly come to recognize that you do not lose people like that in your life…. They lose you.

Happy Saturday and Christmas Eve!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!