You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed.

You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed.

Would you say that your life is mostly happy or mostly unhappy or split down the middle? 

The choice to find happiness amidst the chaos and confusion of life is a determined practice, created solely by an overall awareness that our lives are entirely subject to how well we are capable of moderating the continuous stream of variables in our lives, and seeking deep, contented happiness, everywhere that we might. 

Our ability to monitor this internal happiness gauge within ourselves should become as regular as looking at the fuel gauge on your vehicle. It is a core component that we run on and it is a direct correlation to our continuous desire to seek the positive amidst everything that surrounds us, and celebrate that happiness within us, in as many ways as we might. 

Have you ever forecast into the future and projected that you will finally be happy when someone or something or some opportunity materializes in your favor? 

What if that never happens? 

Does that mean the rest of your life will be spent in a state of unhappiness? Does that sound reasonable or pragmatic to you? If someone you knew was living with those variables, would you not counsel them to find their own internal happiness, rather than projecting it to materialize at a later date, predicated upon variables, that person has no control over, whatsoever? 

We are often quick to see the problems in decisions that our colleagues, friends or family are making, but surprisingly, we seem less regularly capable of recognizing the same within ourselves. 

Our ability to divorce our state of happiness from any external variable, and weight it entirely upon our own shoulders, is truly the liberating variable in life. If you are aware of this, you will be able to find more sublime happiness in a host of experiences than you might ever have, under any other circumstance.

We are comfort-seeking beings, and as a result, we are always going to move in the direction of that which provides comfort, good cheer, and companionship. If you are stuck in a chapter of your life in which you are enabling others to ultimately determine or control the happiness in your life, you might be well served to re-explore how and why you have empowered them with that relationship, and perhaps reduce your dependency on them in order to feel these positive emotions with more regularity. 

Happy Saturday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!