An alpha, who desires to dance with other alphas, needs to be able to lead and be lead.
An alpha, who desires to dance with other alphas, needs to be able to lead and be lead.
BRIAN WEINER
If you want to dance in the biggest of leagues, you must be fully capable of both.
If you have an alpha personality and you wish to collaborate, lead, partner with, JV with, invest in, or any other deep interaction with other alpha personalities, you must learn to master these skills, or you will most surely fail.
If you are alpha, you are the leader. You continue to act as the leader. You know precisely how to apply your intelligence, skills, values, ethics and morals to your engagements. Once those engagements require any interaction with other alphas, you may quickly find yourself thrown off balance.
They behave as you do. It is a dance with both partners leading. It is awkward and cumbersome, unless you learn the many subtle skills required to making an alpha work incredibly effectively with other alphas.
Kindly yield the floor to the other party. Especially when they have a brainstorm and they interrupt what you were just saying. It may break your focus, and take attention from what you were saying, but they are wired that way, and as leaders in their own circle, (I have discovered) they are not accustomed to holding back their thoughts, whenever they want to share them, and in whatever manor.
Always give them ample room to express every idea that is critical to them. You would not wish to be stifled, nor do they. You may not (initially or ever) think their idea(s) is a good one. But you may discover that many things are learned by learning to hold your tongue, shut up and listen. You may be surprised that some of their ideas are much better than yours, and your strength in allowing that communication to transpire is a godsend to you, if you allow it to transmit.
Listen to the rhythm of the discussion. Empower them to show off their positive colors, like a peacock shows off their feathers. Then, when the rhythm is right, you may start to share your piece of the puzzle. By allowing the others to go first, if yours is truly best, it will shine. People like to be given the opportunity to stand out, especially alphas. Be generous and genuine with your inquiries, such that your interest in them, and what they do. is truly felt and understood.
Offer the first act of kindness or generosity. I have made a career of going out of my way for people. It can be the smallest act of kindness, but when employed properly, it can mean the world to the other party.
When you allow yourself to be lead, you will eventually find the rhythm that empowers them to let you lead in reciprocity.
Happy Monday!
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