Experience is one thing you can’t get for nothing.

What exactly is the price we pay for experience? 

Pending upon what experiences we are discussing, the price paid for those could be ranging from inconsequential to the most severe of penalties. 

If you are working to live a full life, complete with a wide array of opportunities, you will most certainly find moments in your life in which you are being exposed to circumstances which will ultimately deliver you tremendous potential rewards, and for which you may ultimately have to sacrifice variables in your world, that you might not have been willing to pay. 

With each and every chapter of our lives, we are absorbing multitudes of experiences.

When we consider the price that we pay for experience, we might presume that we would be considerably more guarded about those experiences, and specifically about what benefits we are hoping to achieve for having gone through them. 

Our experiences are continuously packed with unforeseen variables from which we are honing our respective skills, perspectives, and reactions in order to be considerably more prepared for the next set of variables that come our way. 

It is true that very few experiences come without a price tag, so wouldn’t it be wise for us to understand that, and as a direct result, treasure those experiences for the valuable possessions, they truly are. 

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Make others like themselves a little better and they’ll like you very much.

How do you build your relationships with others? 

Are you continuously looking for genuine opportunities to deepen your friendships in unique and compelling ways? 

Learning the dynamics of human relationships could not be more important to your overall success in life… on every front. When you understand how and why people feel the way they do or react the way they do, you are infinitely closer to enabling yourself to honestly leverage this information to make both your life, as well as theirs, more enriched overall. 

We are continuously looking for new opportunities to grow our relationships and expand our horizons. These opportunities are not always readily apparent. In fact, in some cases they would not exist at all, if someone had not found the secret key to unlocking the healthy relationship dynamic that breeds friendship and long-term loyalty. 

Think about circumstances in which you and one of your closest friends might never have met, had it not been for any one of myriad variables transpiring. 

When we reflect back on those circumstances, we are left pondering how much of our lives might have changed if it were not for one significant moment which facilitated the deep friendship taking place… and which ultimately gave way to new and more opportune horizons as a direct result. 

We are continuously building our repertoire with others, which enables us to mature as individuals, and collectively build a foundation upon which we can all thrive in the process. 

These are not happenstance, but rather a series of human dynamics, which engage and collectively trigger opportunities that might prove highly beneficial when all parties are in alignment. 

Understanding the art of communicating with someone else and allowing them to see how appreciative you are of some of their most favorable qualities is imperative to growing and deepening a friendship. 

When you are fully aware of how this might work, you are wise to build upon these opportunities by strengthening the dynamic between you and others using this simple formula. 

If you are disingenuous with your methodology, the entire effort will fall flat. But if you are speaking from the heart, and you are empowering others to discover what you feel is so magical about them, they will unquestionably feel your connectivity and respond accordingly. 

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Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in that recognition.

ALEXANDER SMITH

Have you ever wondered what it is specifically that makes you fall in love with another person?

We might be quick to say that it is a physical attraction that enables us to feel a yearning to be with the other person, but that, in and of itself, is not love. 

We might say it is the elusive chemistry between two people that gives way to these feelings, but underneath that elusive chemistry, what specifically is driving this? 

Is there a definition of what is really transpiring, as our love grows for another person? 

When we explore a bit deeper, we are quick to recognize that the elusive chemistry is predicated upon variables that are both physical, mental, as well as emotional. 

This chemistry is formulating in your mind based upon observations that are giving way to assumptions. The more that we are able to observe, the more that we are able to assume specific details. 

It is said that opposites attract, but even if there is an attraction between the opposite parties, there are certain qualities about ourselves that we are seeing in the other party, that are causing the attraction to formulate. 

In this attraction, we are evaluating myriad variables that are important to us, and seeing where there are similarities in perspectives, lifestyles, interests, dislikes, approaches, intelligence, personality, and so much more. 

Our core recognition that the other party attracts us, is the foundation upon which all relationships are based. 

In our exploration of another party, we are exposed to many of the details that are both apparent or discoverable, and through this exposure, we are looking to find alignment and commonality that will give us a foundation upon which to build. 

This is equally true in non-romantic relationships. When we find a friend whom we grow to love, we are sensing within them, many of the things that we treasure, and in that discovery, our delight in learning more about them, spending time with them, and sharing philosophies with them, all flourish. 

We are always a work in progress and unquestionably, as we mature, we are continuously seeking to find the proper stimuli in our world that both reinforces the qualities about ourselves that we admire, as well as seeking role models in others whom we wish to emulate. 

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Most people are in favor of progress. It’s the changes that they don’t like.

How do you condition yourself to actually make the changes that will impact the parts of your life that you most wish to change?

It is very easy to opine about how you would like to make a difference in some aspect of your life, and it is entirely another, to find the self discipline and desire to override any impulses within.

There are all sorts of perspectives on how to get yourself into that frame of mind, but in my experience, there is only one single circumstance that facilitates this kind of change.

Making a change in one’s life is easy in the sense that it is ultimately a determination within that becomes the ultimate catalyst to facilitate any deep catharsis.

With that determination in place, the resolution to adhere to whatever the determination requires, is strictly a matter of remaining faithful to the determination, such that any break from the choices that you have set forward, will feel like a significant step in the wrong direction.

Such results can only be realized through a concerted perspective that stays focused specifically on remaining within the course of actions that you have made a pact with yourself to adhere to.

There are times when even under the strongest pacts with ourselves, we must realize that we might stray from the straight and narrow, in order to fulfill a diversion that beckons our attention. That said, we do not need to see a tiny infraction here or there, as being the determination that the ultimate course of action that we have embarked upon, has been desecrated.

Rather, we are far more likely to succeed, if we can take a step back after such an infraction, and recognize that rather than throwing in the towel and giving up, we are wiser to jump straight back into the self-prescribed behavior and discipline that we have set forth for ourselves, and embrace it all over again, to enable us to continue to move forward with dignity and pride.

If we were to look at a single infraction here or there as being the line of demarcation between success and failure, we would be far more prone to be on a course of failing.

Instead, as we see our error in choices made, we are still very likely to succeed if we can jump right back into the choices or regimen that we have prescribed for ourselves and embrace it anew.

Success is a series of intelligent steps that are continuously in progress, and which are ultimately delivering us to where we most wish to be.

It is all truly a state of mind.

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Man is like steel. Once he loses his temper, he collapses.

What happens when you get pushed to the end of your limits?

Do you explode with fury or do you absorb it within, so that you can make a measured response?

We are so quick to enable external stimuli to trigger reactions deep within us. These are reactions that most certainly will not make us proud upon reflection hours, days or weeks later.

We are given an opportunity at the inflection moment of anger to either take control of ourselves in the moment, or to satisfy an internal desire to explode at the tiniest of stimuli.

What is it exactly that gives some people the self-control to internalize and review under quiet circumstances, whereas others feel necessity to blurt out whatever negative reaction that crosses their mind at such a moment?

If you have become a good student of life, you have almost certainly discovered that at a moment in which you indulged yourself with an angry overreaction, you have most likely witnessed the negative ramifications that come along with having made such an immature decision. A lost friendship, relationship, business opportunity and other outcomes are the traditional casualties of such a reaction.

Presumably, one or more of these incidents may begin to condition you to cease your temptation to yield to your internal anger, and instead recognize that while something might be absolutely irritating you in ways that you are most desirous of reacting to, that reaction is unquestionably the wrong chess move for you at that moment in time.

This lesson about controlling our anger is one of the great lessons that inevitably arises from empirical experience. We must suffer those ramifications before we will ever truly understand how and why we are best served by putting our anger and our overt reactions Into an internal compartment and allowing our resolution of those feelings to transpire on a personal basis, rather than flailing around under the watchful eyes of others and experiencing the negative repercussions of having done so.

True strength is absolutely derived from the continuous evolution of this, and several other core principles combined.

Losing one’s temper is a luxury that most of us truly cannot afford.

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We all know, there’s nothing they can do to stop us… as long as we keep our cool. 

PAT RILEY

Do you keep cool under pressure?

The need to remain calm under the most extreme circumstances, is clearly the delineation between greatness and failure.

We are continuously cycling through countless moments in lives, in which our destiny relies entirely on our ability to retain our composure and utilize our higher level operating system to prevail.

It is simple to state such a truism, and it is another to live up to it when the stakes are extreme and the negative outcome is breathing down your neck.

How exactly does a champion go from an external world of chaos, into an internal world of positivity and calmness?

The solution starts with mental training exercises. In that regimen, the goal will always be to see the outside world for exactly what it is. No sugar coating. No delusions. Just the harsh reality. From there, the training will take you into a mental discipline in which the goal is to visualize a tranquil, safe zone in which you feel most calm, secure and in control. While you are within that sweet spot, you then choose to encounter all of the harsh reality that is coming at you, and you work to sort your options. Even if your options appear meager at best, you must understand that there is at least one option that you may gravitate towards. One that delivers you your very best opportunity for success. Combine that with a few more contingent options, and make your next move.

Once you have narrowed the field, identified your most viable options, the rest is clearly a head game. In this effort, the distraction layer of everything inconsequential is pushed backwards in your perspective, and you must entirely focus on the issue at hand.

This effort may appear minimal from an outward perspective, but internally, it is by far, the most crucial variable of them all. Your ability to eliminate all distraction, such that you only see the solutions you have established in your mind, is your elevated state of existence. In this state, you are indomitable. You have created the perfect storm within, and you are going to unleash it upon the world.

This core focus is common among all of the greatest minds in the world. Each and every one of them have come to this specific chapter of their training, and embraced it with the unique energy and internal respect it requires.

Greatness is not accidental. It is acquired through proven methodologies that are demonstrable and learnable, for any willing student to discover and grow.

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Life is a series of perceptions. How you choose to evaluate them will determine your final outcome.

BRIAN WEINER

How do you determine what is real?

We experience what we believe is reality through our senses. If our senses are confirming that which we are encountering as being real, then we are most likely to accept it as truth.

But when a great illusion, magic trick or virtual reality experience comes along, suddenly, this line of demarkation is so blurred as to leave substantial questions in the mind of the viewer.

We evaluate perceptions. Based on those evaluations, we are most able to discern truth from lies, reality from illusion.

In many cases, those variables are neither truth nor lie. They are details that do not fall into one of those two camps. As we evaluate the resources at our disposal, we are awakened to the reality that we are in charge of making determinations for ourselves whether or not the variables we are evaluating are valid or are the fallacies that we are being fed in order to keep us in stasis.

If you are intent on looking at life through a more pessimistic perspective, you may well find yourself living a much lesser life than you might be living, were you to view those variables through a more optimistic mindset.

It is not that optimism, in and of itself, is the solution, but rather the collective mindset that breeds optimism, is.

This mindset is more willing to see the circumstances not only for what they currently are, but more importantly, seeing them for what we believe they are capable of becoming. For as you believe in something, your belief in it helps make it so. There are obviously exceptions to this thought process, but for the most part, it bears a great amount of truth.

When you are working your way through life’s assorted chapters, each of which is complete with issues and concerns, try your hardest to see them through a proper filter to enable you to evaluate each and every one of them as being a stair on a staircase that elevates you to a much higher level.

With this mindset in place, many of these items cease to be an impedance, and in turn, become a direct escalation to elevate you to exactly where you desire to venture next.

Guard your perceptions closely. They are your direct defense against thought processes that can cripple your future, when they could instead be the fortifications for the realization of your most valuable dreams.

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Faith is the daring of the soul to go farther than it can see.

WILLIAM CLARKE

When was the last time you jumped completely headfirst into the unknown?

Were you terrified of the potential outcome? Or did you presume that you would find a way to solve the problem, when or if you encountered it?

As we explore our greatest desires, we will inevitably come face-to-face, with circumstances and variables well beyond our control. As we work to confront each and everyone of these, we are maturing our skill sets, and improving our ability to continually sync decisively at critical junctures, and then act in accord.

It is only through our greatest abilities to encounter and engage obstacles that we are fully capable of leveraging our internal resources to ensure that whichever leap of faith we have taken will result in a positive outcome.

If these circumstances strike you as being overtly brave and unacceptable in terms of your own willingness to tolerate risk of any kind, then it becomes incumbent upon you to set a specific parameter within which you are willing to operate.

This is traditionally known as a comfort zone. Almost everyone has some form of a comfort zone within which they make their core decisions. In many cases, it has been my experience that my greatest life joys have been discovered directly outside my comfort zone.

When I am willing to assume responsibility for something that I do not know if I am ready to champion, I have often times learned details about myself that I had never been given the opportunity to discover prior, had I not taken a chance to go outside the limitations that I was willing to confine myself within.

We are a continuous work in progress. It is only through our diligent exploration of territories heretofore unknown, that we ultimately grow and mature into whom we are truly destined to become.

Learning these details about ourselves, enables us the latitude to increase our power and our influence.

Accordingly, when you are heading headfirst into the unknown, faith in yourself is truly your most valuable resource.

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A bad system will beat a good person every time. (Or will it?)

Do you believe this to be true?

I was at an event yesterday, in which somebody said this to me as an absolute truism in their world.

I questioned them about why they saw the world through this filter, and they remained steadfast in their explanation that, “if the system is horribly bad, no matter how good the person is, that system will always defeat them.”

I immediately thought of Margaret Mead who said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

As I started to explain this alternate thought process, I was met with a rigid perspective that seemed unshakable from their point of view.

The truth is, this is not accurate at all.

You can delineate all sorts of examples, be they corporate, political, institutional, athletic or otherwise, in which a person was feeling thwarted by the constraints of a restrictive system and opted to rise up above that system, and either escape, institute change, or completely overthrow the system.

History is littered with continuous examples of empires that have been extremely restrictive to certain parties or organizations. At the end of the day, there is always a person like George Washington, or group of people who have seen the flaws in the world that are being imposed upon them. They recognize that this empire is restricting their liberties and their cumulative actions, which ultimately gives them the necessary stimuli to rise up and pursue the liberation from such constraint. Witness the French Revolution.

There may be countless individuals who have found themselves thwarted by “impossible to deal with” organizations, and as a direct consequence, they might perceive today’s aphorism as a truism.

I choose to write about it, because I am an avid believer that if there is a set of circumstances that are unfairly restrictive, and which preclude individuals from achieving their highest achievements, then perhaps the only best solution is to either extricate oneself, from such a quandary or collectively work together to ensure that such repressive policies are overturned in favor of a more fair establishment.

A good person will beat a bad system, using the right game plan, resources, strong will and determination.

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Hurts have taught me never to give up loving. Be willing to take another chance, otherwise tomorrow may be empty.

WALTER RINDER

Have you ever been hurt emotionally?

Did you recover and resume living a full life, or was the scarring too intense to weather?

Our ability to sustain through emotional pain and devastation is shared by many animals in the kingdom. 

The healing processes will vary, the duration of recovery will vary as well… but those who find new love for anything post the emotional trauma, are most likely to thrive.

Every minute of our lives is precious. To squander a significant portion of that on grief, while fully understandable, and in most cases, unavoidable, is an expenditure that is so very costly, as to give us pause for consideration.

When we turn the corner on sadness or depression, we open the gateway for liberating our heart and mind and allowing them a new pasture of opportunity to blossom once again.

These are never expected to replace that of which we grieve, but rather, to expand our horizon to allow new stimuli to awaken our heart and generate countless new smiles as a result.

Never lose faith that your heart may sing once again. For in that belief, you will most certainly make it so.

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