Stand by those who stand by you.

Making one hundred friends is not a miracle. The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side, even when hundreds are against you.

As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

We are a continuous stream of changes, each cascading into consequences that have long term ramifications. From those changes, stem both opportunities as well as setbacks.

The secret, it would appear, is to find a continuity between the highs and the lows. To create a foundation upon which to stand and to generate a solid basis from which to view ourselves… and from which others may determine whom we truly are in good times and bad.

If your world is escalating, everyone loves a winner. Your attractive nature is divine and your gravitational energy will pull admirers from out of the proverbial woodwork. The faster your shooting star, the greater proportion of hangers-on you will accrue. But… if circumstances reverse, you may well discover that the disintegration of your collected fan base may wither at a rate that is significantly disproportional to which they attracted in the first place.

Finding your soul in the ebb and tide of friendships, professional relationships, and personal relationships, could not be more important. In this discovery process, we are taught, (many times empirically) that we are not as secure as we might have first imagined. In fact, we are more likely to discover a fragility that exists in a subterranean corner of our being, that raises its awkward presence at the most inconvenient of moments.

Only then, do we become aware of that from which we are truly constructed. In that moment of weakness, as our valuable resources are shaken free, are we left with a realization of the true essence of that which makes us whom we truly are. Only then are we faced with the responsibility to shore up what we have found, and rally that back into something of magnitude… to which we may beckon others to come to our side.

If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before making a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.

Conversely, we are going to witness others in our world who are experiencing similar setbacks. In those moments, we are given a choice…are we the ones who flee from a drowning ship, or are we the ones who help the ship owner patch the proverbial hole in the bow, and bail out the water, until the ship is navigable again? This is where we learn so much more about ourselves. 

In this chapter, we awaken to selfless acts that deliver tremendous chapters of information that teach us about our values, our morals and our karmic qualities. In this opportunity to stand by someone who is failing, we are given our own opportunity to be that loyal friend who was there when everything else seemed a distant glimmer to the one who is sinking.

Happy Tuesday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!