You didn’t reply, but I got your message.

You didn’t reply, but I got your message.

The silence is deafening.

Sometimes, the need for a response can be so overwhelming as to make everything else diminish in relative importance along the way.

You may find yourself waiting for an update, a confirmation, a meeting date, or just a simple communication from a friend, colleague, mentor or lover. And when the response is not forthcoming, it can be excruciating to you in the process.

In some situations, the silence is due to circumstances of which we have no knowledge. In that silence we can read countless unnecessary scenarios, none of which are actually true. We can forecast a host of reasons that are nonexistent and create a thousand reactions in our mind that are based on nothing other than our brain taking control and pressuring our thoughts with a burden we have no need to be carrying.

In those situations, we can accidentally respond with a reaction from some thought that was conjured solely within our own vivid imagination and deliver a response that could potentially disrupt something that was perfectly in place prior to our blurting out something we may regret till the end of time.

In other situations, the silence is very real. It is the answer. It is not what we want to hear, but in that silence, is the truth. It is the rejection that we did not wish to receive. It is the culmination of whatever events have lead up to that moment, and it can be crushing in its lack of anything whatsoever. In that silence, we can generate countless reruns of whatever transpired to lead up to that silence and forecast all of our disappointments upon the variables from which we are aware.

But in many cases, there are variables that we have no idea about. Variables that the other party will never openly share. These can come from numerous details that lead into the situation from which we are emerging, personal or professional. We can presume, surmise and conjure every detail that we think has lead to this outcome, but no matter how we are able to reconcile the circumstances in our own mind, we will never know the full story, nor the full reason.

Learning to extricate ourselves not only from the situation, but more importantly, from the mental torture we impose upon ourselves in the wake of the experience, is truly the bigger life lesson. Learning to accept that variable as being the final detail we will ever know, and accepting that as a finality takes maturity, perspective and is the impetus of huge personal growth.

Sometimes, all we will ever know…. Is nothing.

And from that nothing, we are expected to mature, grow wiser and develop further in our personal journey through life. It may not be pleasant, nor pretty, but it is most certainly a reality that we will grow to accept. The sooner we are able to get to acceptance, the quicker we are able to move forward and mature into the person we are working to become.

The silence can truly be deafening. But it can also be enlightening.

The choice is ours to make.

Happy Wednesday!

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