You’ll be in better company once you stop adjusting your boundaries to accommodate disrespect.

You’ll be in better company once you stop adjusting your boundaries to accommodate disrespect.

How much disrespect are you willing to tolerate?

Coming from a relatively understanding family, I haven’t spent a large volume of time coping with disrespect as a child. 

Disrespect shows itself in so many ways, through either direct or passive behavior. 

In the course of our lives, we are often times expected to just suck it up and recognize that the disrespect is part of the overall fabric of life. 

But I’m going to take exception to that. 

One of the single biggest categories of disrespect in my world is punctuality. My work world requires that I stay on a fairly rigid schedule, such that I might be able to accommodate all of the people in my world that want to connect and communicate. Some people feel that as long as they are within a window of 15 or 20 minutes of the designated time, that this is acceptable. The truth is that when another person is generous with your time, you cannot help but feel as if they don’t respect you enough to maintain their punctuality. 

Sometimes respect is communicated through communication skills. Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone that hears part of what you are saying, and does not wait for you to finish the sentence before they start talking all over your explanation? 

In other situations people may not seek or value your opinions, and sometimes that can be warranted, but in other circumstances, it is absolutely inappropriate and unfair. 

If you are looking to put your life onto a path of order and value, sadly, one of the first casualties of that choice will be to isolate yourself from those who are not respectful of your time or your communication. 

This most certainly does not mean that if you have someone in your life who is not adhering to this, that you need to sever your ties with them, but it does mean that having an open conversation on the topic and explaining in polite terms how and why their actions are leaving you feeling the way that they do must be exercised so that collectively, you are able to create honest and direct expectations between both parties. 

There are countless ways that respect is demonstrated, I have only mentioned a couple. Wherever your boundaries lie, if you are feeling disrespected in your day today regimen, you must take action or you will continually disintegrate under the continuous onslaught of inappropriate energy coming in your direction. 

Be tactful, and respectful in your choice of how to communicate this to the other party, and you may well be on your way to a better next chapter with them.

Happy Thursday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!