And this is what I should have said. Well, I thought it, but I kept it hid.
And this is what I should have said. Well, I thought it, but I kept it hid.
ELTON JOHN. DUA LIPA
How many times have you’ve been ready to say something, and at the very last second, you opt not let it be spoken?
Or… how many times have you let a situation go by, and minutes, hours or days later, you realize what you should have said?
The art of selective communication is a skillset. It comes with time. It can be taught, but the most effective lessons are always empirical. We all inevitably find ourselves, blurting out something that we wish we had never said. And in doing so, we suffer the consequences of whatever the ramifications are, of having communicated that which we might have kept unsaid.
Over the course of time, presumably, we grow more in tune with what the probable outcomes will be, when we project their reactions to our communication. As we master this thought process, we are more and more prone to be highly selective about anything that we communicate with anybody else for a host of reasons.
Something might hurt another person’s feelings inadvertently, or it might be misconstrued and give them cause to look unfavorably towards you, through no fault of your own. Or it might reveal something that is secretive by nature, and should not be shared with another party. Regardless, of which of these different scenarios you might have encountered personally, each one continues to reinforce how important it is, to clearly think about everything you are going to say, before it ever comes out of your mouth.
There are many times when we have something that we are just dying to communicate to another person for a myriad of reasons, but in many cases, a lot of those communications are a short term fuse that wants to be lit and are most often best left unsaid. We are communicative creatures, living in a revolutionary society that permits freedom of speech. This mostly unappreciated freedom, facilitates our desire and our pattern of regularly speaking, or sharing that which is on our mind. In most cases, we never give it a second thought, whereas in many other parts of the world, those statements would never be spoken aloud.
As you grow older, you discover there are things that you would have said, that you did not opt to say, and you find yourself ever more grateful, and fortunate for having found the self-control to keep those statements from slipping out of your mouth, in a moment of weakness or emotion.
And this is what I should have said. Well, I thought it, but I kept it hid.
Happy Sunday!
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I love this track by Elton and Due Lipa!
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