Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn’t need it. And the person who doesn’t like you won’t believe it.

Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn’t need it. And the person who doesn’t like you won’t believe it.

Have you ever tried to explain yourself, only to be met with disbelief and suspicion? 

The whole prospect of trying to explain a circumstance, or a misunderstanding, is fraught with all sorts of underlying variables that make whatever it is that you are trying to communicate, subject to other people’s perspectives, disbelief, and lack of understanding.

When you find yourself in a situation like this, are you better served continuously trying to seek the understanding and acknowledgment of the third-party, or at a certain point, are you better served, to recognize that it’s not going to be understood or misperceived anyway, and just let it go?

These are the variables that kick around inside of our mind as we try to extricate ourselves from someone else’s misunderstanding of anything that we have said or done.

There’s certainly is a possibility of success in the course of trying to explain a situation, action, or statement, but in the end, there’s always going to be some cadence in the equation that you yourself are not creating, and are therefore continually trying to operate against, in the course of your trying to set the record straight. 

Clear communication is one of the most important tools that any human being may ever employ. Through that communication, a person is able to transform the minds of others into a repository of all sorts of potential information, experiences or opportunities that they may be desirous of hearing. In the art of intelligent communication, there is presumably less likelihood of a third-party walking away, scratching their head confused by whatever it is that you have just explained.

Far better for us to recognize that our bidirectional communication with others is imperative to our overall success and leverage every resource at our disposal to hone these skills, thereby, ensuring greater likelihood of opportunities coming to fruition.

Happy Saturday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!