The better person you become, the better people you will attract.

Why is it that something so obvious, can be so completely invisible to the wrong people?

In the course of every spectrum of life: personal, professional, scholastic, athletic, performance, and artistic, like will always attract like. It is (almost) an immutable fact. 

People are herd animals and wish to be in and amongst the herd. Once within the herd, they will further be drawn to those who share similar values, thoughts, qualities, aspirations, intelligence and belief systems. 

Then it should come as no surprise that depending upon where you fit within the scheme of the population in which you inhabit, that similar people are going to be drawn to you in parallel to those attributes which you outwardly project, reflect, promote and discuss. 

If one is finding themselves not able to connect with those whom they wish to associate with, then a first order of business must be self improvement in whatever area they are feeling an inability to find harmonious connectivity. Only through that self improvement will they ultimately evolve or mature into the kind of person that will create that perfect attraction to the population of humanity with whom they wish to associate. 

Sometimes it takes a rude awakening to discover how or why they are not having the proper vibrations with the people whom they wish to connect with. These awakenings could point to personality issues, hygiene issues, humor disconnects, chasms that separate intelligence, and so on. In other cases, it could be separations based upon political or religious beliefs, economic divides, physical attraction, morality considerations or personality traits.

Regardless of which variables are causing the divide, the answers are still almost always the same… Improve those qualities about oneself that require improvement, learn to implement the qualities of the others with whom you wish to associate, and accept the limitations of the permutations that may potentially preclude one from being completely homogenous with a specific group and either work to find a solution to excel past those limitations, or accept that a solution is not going to be possible. 

Today’s aphorism uses the term, “better,” but in reality that is just one of countless adjectives that could potentially define the objective at the base of this lesson. There is a presumption that a majority of people wish to “better” themselves, but what does that even mean? Better is a subjective term and, as such, really has no definable value to apply to one leveraging this aphorism to one’s own personal benefit. It might be wiser, then, to say that the more evolved in a particular direction one matures, the more evolved people, one will attract. 

Evolution is not always a progression in what might be a positive direction. It would be equally appropriate to note that the further one falls in the ranks of society, the more likely they will attract those who are on a similar trajectory. One only need to look at the personality progression of either Walter White or Michael Corleone to see how this works in parallel to the same aphorism above.

Happy Wednesday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!