Wait for the one, but do not wait for someone to be the one.


Everyone deserves ample time to show their true colors.

When you are pursuing relationships, both personal and professional, you have two options that are continuously trying to stay in balance with one another. Hope vs. reality. The hope component fuels our entire being. We open doors with expectations set high. We enable others to express their feelings, values, rules, ethics, perspectives, politics, faith and other variables upon which we calculate our ability to maintain a reason to stay in the equation, or we rethink our options.

The trouble arises when a few of the variables are so incredibly tempting as to keep us hanging around longer than the rest of the variables warrant. A profession may pay you incredibly well, provide benefits far better than you might be receiving elsewhere, and deliver you career growth options that are very enticing. But… if the work environment is so toxic as to make you either physically or mentally ill from the continuous engagement, then all the benefits are never going to warrant the downside you are putting yourself through.

In a personal relationship, the chemistry may be magical, the physical attraction, unmistakable, the conversation incredibly engaging. But if the party to whom you are attracted carries one or two massive character flaws, you are setting yourself up for a continuous stream of disappointment. Some character flaws may be discussed and dealt with, others, such as malignant narcissism, are never going to be cured, and most certainly require you making the tough decision as to whether you are willing to suffer the slings and arrows of your misfortune, just to stay in that toxic relationship.

These variables can lead us to hold out for something better. Which, in most cases, is by far the wiser choice. But, as with any variable that is cause for imbalance in our lives, holding out for the very best, can also become the one way ticket to nowhere. While you are waiting for the one opportunity that is perfect, you might very easily overlook the one opportunity that will make you perfectly happy.

Life in balance sounds and looks so easy in the abstract. Finding and maintaining that actual balance in life is a tightrope that we all walk, continuously cognizant that we have no safety net below us. We walk the slack line with finesse and poise, fully ready to embrace the opportunities we generate for ourselves. But finding our continuous balance within this tumultuous set of circumstances, can be awkward, uncomfortable, and most certainly lead us into very perilous circumstances, if we are not wise enough to separate our emotions from our rational perspective and allow certain things to become fully in focus, we are going to spend our life in a perpetual delusion.

Find your internal compass, allow others ample opportunity to reveal their true colors, and make intelligent decisions that are entirely free and clear of distracting emotions, such that you find your viable path to the variables in life that truly matter.

Happy Friday!

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Written by Brian Weiner
When I was 5 years old, I discovered that the lemon tree in the backyard + dixie cups + water and sugar and I was in business. I have been hooked on that ever since. In 1979, I borrowed $14,000 to create a brand new product... photographic greeting cards with no text on the inside, called Paradise Photography. That was the start of The Illusion Factory. Since then, The Illusion Factory has been entrusted by all of the major studios and broadcasters with the advertising and marketing of over $7 billion in filmed, live, broadcast, gaming, AR, VR and regulated gaming forms of entertainment, generating more than $100 Billion in revenue and 265 awards for creativity and technology for our clients. When I took a break from film school at UCLA to move to Hawaii, my mother did not lecture me. Instead, she took 150 of her favorite aphorisms and in her beautiful calligraphy, wrote them artistically throughout a blank journal. That is the origin of the Lessons from the Mountain series. Since then, on my journeys to the top of a mountain to watch the sunrise, I have spent countless hours contemplating words of wisdom from the sages of all races, genders and political persuasions, constantly accumulating the thoughts to guide me on my life path. I hope you enjoy my books. Please let me know your thoughts, as I highly value your feedback!